Self-doubt is one of the number one killers of dreams, motivation, progress and even awareness. How YOU see YOU is so much more important than how anyone walking this earth sees you rather it is your child, your parents, your best friend, your significant other, your colleagues, etc because no matter how much you try to mask it, what and how we feel inside seeps out and it can affect our interactions, our work ethic, our ability to comprehend and our ability to move forward.
So I ask this question, why not you?
“Tomorrow’s never promised” .. “Time waits for one”
Two phrases we use often. Two phrases we allow to dictate our current moves. Two phrases that we use as excuses to settle … settle for mediocrity. Settle for unhappiness. Settle for the bare minimum.
In the same breath, two phrases that make us rush. So many of us are rushing … rushing to be and do things that takes time to develop.
Some of us have been in situations in which we are forced to move on, meaning: the person we want to be with usually doesn’t want to be with us OR due to circumstance, we can’t be with them.. that’s life, eh?
So then we move on.
New Age Dating
Dating is defined as a stage of romantic or sexual relationships in humans whereby two or more people meet socially, possibly as friends or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a prospective partner in a more committed intimate relationship or marriage.
Man meets woman or woman meets man. They have sex after a night of dancing or months of texting or flirting on social media or years of loving on each other. It only takes that ONE time, that one night of passionate love-making or rough sex to occur for a baby to be made.
9-months later, some will argue they were “trapped” others will say it was a mistake, but some will admit it was out of love that made the creation of another human being.
“I can’t make you love me if you don’t. You can’t make your heart feel something that it won’t”
Love is powerful. So powerful that we, as people, often times believe we can use it to change other people.
… Stop waiting by the phone and PICK IT UP and call him sis!! Phones work two-ways no matter how many times social media/society tells you it’s the man’s role IF he’s interested. Well hell, you have feelings too so if you’re interested, don’t feel bad about reaching out. For starters, you never know what someone else has on their plate.
"Sorry I am busy"
"Unfortunately, my calendar is full, maybe next time?"
"I have no availability."
and then the good ol saying goes "People make time for what they want to make time for"... sure indeed, but let's take a step back for a minute.
Forever doesn’t last always.
When we were younger we met people who we knew we would be with forever, not realizing that forever comes a lot sooner than we think. Then we grow up and realize forever really doesn’t last too long. We have our share of relationships and situationships leaving a piece of ourselves behind while gaining a brick, slowly building that brick wall that Donald Trump only talks about. The only difference is we aren’t keeping immigrants out, we are trying to keep out anyone who can hurt us or help us. YES: WE BLOCK OUT PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP US. Due to past experiences or other life’s circumstances, over time we become hardened on the inside. We may love, love… but only from afar. We may love people, but again, only from afar. Anyone who has the potential to help us also has the potential to hurt us, especially when that help doesn’t look like the help we envisioned, so we keep our distance.
Beyonce said it best “we’re smart enough to make these millions, strong enough to bear the children… then get back to business”
This statement is just a small testament of a woman’s capability, so why must society try to place women in a box? Why does society make it to where a woman has to choose one path, as if women are not some of the strongest creatures God has ever created? To put a woman in a box means to minimize her potential and her creativity. Please note that by preventing a woman from reaching her full true potential, you prevent the families, the communities and the world from reaching their full potential, because THAT’S how powerful a woman’s influence is.
…How much do you trust your mate challenge?
If your mate left their phone on the night stand, would you:
1. Leave it respectively in the place they left it in.
2. Pick it up and scroll through as much as you can before they walk back into the room.
Get your ex back 2017
Get Your Ex BackIf you follow me on social media, you may be familiar with my “Get Your Ex Back” campaign. At first glance, the phrase “Get Your Ex Back” may have a negative connotation. One might assume that the phrase is encouraging one to pursue their ex-regardless of their current situation. Or some might assume that “Getting Your Ex Back” means that there may not be another person capable of loving you, and your only option is to settle for your ex. My hope in this message is to not imply either of the two thoughts. I hope to encourage everyone reading this to be true in their feelings, to remove their pride, to put forth effort and to bring love where love is lost.
Okay so maybe getting your ex back isn’t for you, but it made you think right? Let me first say, I am all for getting back with your ex, especially if you two not only have potential to progress, but that you both have grown and are actually progressing even better together: mentally emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. However, some of us may have just had the wrong ex. The wrong ex in a sense that there just isn’t a future with that person, there is no dramatic love story. But trust me, the lessons you’ve learned while being with the wrong ex were all the right lessons you needed to improve you on your journey.