I Can’t Make You Love Me
“I can’t make you love me if you don’t. You can’t make your heart feel something that it won’t”
Love is powerful. So powerful that we, as people, often times believe we can use it to change other people.
Have you ever loved someone who didn’t love you? You tried everything in your power to get them to see that you were enough, that you were everything they needed. You thought that if you continued to meet them with love that they will eventually love you back, but in the long run you only end up hurting yourself because you exhaust yourself, mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically.
… I’ve been there.
I can’t make you love me.
No you can’t make anyone love you. You can give to them what you are able to and it is up to them how much they take or what they plan to do with it. So many other factors play into them, maybe it’s science, the chemistry or maybe simply you are not the one for them.
You put forth all of this effort to get where? Back where you started at?… EXHAUSTING!!!
The more you love someone and the more they run away, the thinner the line becomes between love and hate. You just want to love them right? Doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results lead to insanity. Being met with rejection when you just want to love someone will lead to you resenting that person. Now you are doing things you said you would never do all in the spirit of Love right? No, no, no that isn’t love.
I can’t make you love me.
No you can’t make anyone love you no matter how much love you give, but you can set yourself up to being used by the same person you “love.” How? Because some people are selfish and will see your deep love for them as a means to take everything you have to give, except your heart.
We have to be mindful as to how much of ourselves we are giving to people. Sometimes we make excuses “I’m just a nice person” well you know what, some people don’t deserve it.
A person in love will lose everything before they realize they’re destructing and even then, they’ll find more to give.
You can’t make your heart feel something that it won’t
The thing about the heart is, it has no eyes, no ears. It beats over 100,000 times a day. I’d like to think that in order to capture someone else’s heart the beating of theirs has to align with yours through vibes and feelings. The heart can’t be manipulated. The heart wants what the heart wants.
I’ll close my eyes, so I won’t see
I still feel. You still feel. Whether the eyes are open or closed… the love is not there. I Can’t make you love me.
Even if you never tried to love someone into loving you, be mindful of the situations you remain in with a person that loves you, but you don’t love them or in the capacity they need you… I’ve been here before too. Even if you can’t love them, don’t hurt anyone you care about.
Just give me till then to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight
It takes two people to fight. Giving up doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Giving up can be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
Break-ups hurt, but they hurt worse for one person when they are one sided.
It is totally okay to love people from afar, most times it is the healthier option for your own mental health.
If someone doesn’t want to be with you, let them go. No matter how much of your time, effort and heart you pour into someone, you cannot manipulate them into loving you or loving you the way you need them to.
Don’t Patronize Me.